Results on the scoreboard obviously determine the path of the team, but more importantly they determine the character of a child. How does the child handle defeat? Are they gracious, are they level-headed? The same questions could be asked for how they react to winning a game.
As coaches, we always look to build a better player and team on the ice, but we also strive to build character and a better individual off the ice. In a team environment, regardless of the sport, a person’s character is displayed in a variety of ways. It could be the vocal leader who inspires the team, or the quiet individual who inspires others by her/his actions on the ice. It also could be that teammate who checks in with a friend when they are not quite themselves. It could also be that child who never, ever quits, both in games and practice.
As coaches, these are all teachable moments. Though it may not seem important in the big picture, to the child who is inspired, it can be a huge moment. It could be the moment when they find their individual leadership style, or their character. For coaches, that is the single best moment we can witness.
The moral of the story is that while coaches may not be perfect, they most certainly have the best interest of your child in mind. They want nothing more than your child to succeed—not only in sport, but in life. Every child has character; it is just a matter of when their true character will show.
The next time you see your child’s coach, regardless of the sport, take a moment to thank them for inspiring your child. For me, the coach who inspired me most was Warren Wallin, and to this day I am thankful for the lessons on and off the field that he provided me.
