Losing a child around, before, or after birth is a lot for any parent to endure. That’s where people like Carolyn Turcotte come in.
Turcotte has been volunteering for a year and half with an organization called Manitoba Angel Dresses, which takes in used dresses that women don’t wear anymore—mostly wedding, grad, or bridesmaids dresses—and cuts and sews them into tiny dresses or outfits. These outfits are then handed out to families that have lost children due to miscarriage, still birth, or SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome).
With some miscarriages, there is nothing to show and no body to bury. That’s why receiving this gift of something tangible can be a help in the grieving process.
“Providing an outfit is just one less thing to have to look for or shop for at this time,” Turcotte explains. “I am sure the stores don’t even have clothing small enough for some of the angels.”
Manitoba Angel Dresses is always looking for volunteers, especially seamstresses. While having sewing experience is great, it’s not necessary. But Turcotte has been sewing since she was a kid. “I also have a certificate in fashion and design. I love being creative, and this lets this happen. I must say I try to make each dress unique just like babies really are.”
Each dress or outfit takes approximately one to two hours to complete.
Often, losing a baby happens in a hospital setting. That’s how the partnership between Manitoba Angel Dresses and Bethesda Hospital in Steinbach came about.
“One of our coordinators contacted the hospital and arranged to meet up and donate some dresses that were already sewn,” Turcotte says.
50 years ago, many topics were completely taboo to talk about. Suicide, depression, or even miscarriage would never come up in conversation.
“I think that society as a whole is talking more and more about life and death in general,” Turcotte says. “It is still very hard for people to talk about their infants’ loss, but I think it has been more recognized now than before.”
With 1 in 4 women experiencing some sort of infant loss, being able to connect with others who have felt the same pain is important.
